“True love Is loving yourself enough to choose to learn all your lessons through intimacy.”

“True love Is loving yourself enough to choose to learn all your lessons through intimacy.”

A common theme found throughout the world’s spiritual traditions is the depiction of the soul as being limited and obscured by the contrasting conditions of material living. Classical texts depict a soul as a lens of creative vitality and all of one’s life experiences aimed at helping to help polish that lens into greater clarity. As the soul is perfected it actively projects the benevolent light driving all of existence.

On a personal level, this means that there are parts of your soul’s benevolence that realized, and it is through this perspective that you commune with the Divine. However, their are latent aspects of your soul that remain shrouded in mystique. It is these unrealized aspects of your soul’s benevolence that you have yet to fully grasp. To the degree that you to not pull back the curtain on the greater benevolence of the latent aspects of your soul is the degree that its repressed momentum arises chaotically and pulls you down. The path of spiritual emergence is designed to better connect the full circuitry of your soul’s benevolence, and as you do so you summon person, inter-personal and societal solutions for greater harmony. This is why the classical mystics describe that by polishing the lens of your soul’s greater benevolence you grow to better project the fullness of divinity and resuscitate lost potentials. From this perspective, all of one’s life’s journey is designed to one way or another, help coax one towards uncovering and exuding a greater capacity of their soul’s light.

While navigating your life’s winding journey, you confront many signposts in the form of friends, family and relationships that direct you into greater accord with your soul’s authenticity. Some of these relationships are intended to attract you closer to your soul’s truth, and other relationships are aimed atto repelling you into the right direction, as if intimating; “you are supposed to be different and are not supposed to be like me.”

Still, from an eternal perspective; all relationships are orchestrating a greater benevolence by helping to amplify a the fullness of their soul’s creative vitality.

A soulmate relationship is a powerful “signpost” relationship for dedicated self-discovery and spiritual realization. Each partner serves as an powerful signpost for the other. Each companion summons a greater dawning of their partner’s latent spiritual potentials. Each one modelling aspects of unrealized benevolence in their partner’s soul. In tandem such nurturing fosters greater harmony between them, while converging with the greater spirit of their unrealized souls.

The core idea here being that a soulmate, can inherently by virtue of their unique set of core spiritual attributes trigger within their partner a greater embrace of latent spiritual qualities.

Definition: A true soulmate relationship is one of mutual dedication and vulnerable intimacy, where each partner supports the other on their journey of self-discover in ways that lead to inner tranquility, and a more fulfilling life.

 The “popular” notion of a soulmate as a dynamic where one partner simply completes another is a dubious notion. On many fronts this misguided understanding leads to destruction and apathy. At core, it places unhealthy emphasis on disempowering passivity that obscures the confines of personal responsibility. True spirituality places each individual at the fulcrum of their own spiritual trajectory and emergence. It requires authentic dedication and passionate self discovery.  Essentially, it is always spiritually unhealthy to place the responsibility of your own inner happiness and spiritual development on another.

Note: The core rule for all spiritual growth is that the individual is the sole arbiter of their own happiness. 

An authentic soulmate relationship is one where each partner models for the other aspects of the other’s truth that has long been repressed or untapped. It is a relationship that over the course of time inspires each to reclaim the fullness of their spiritual selves, so that as a couple they may together create a life with greater balance and authenticity. A true soulmate relationship is never a quick-fix to inner fulfillment. It can never support delegating the responsibility to your authentic discovery to another. A soulmate will not complete you, rather it will provide you with necessary conditions of security and courage to fearlessly dedicate to attending to the inner discovery that leads to lasting personal and spiritual emergence. It is a profoundly synergistic partnership where, like timeless dancers, devoted lovers work in tandem at ripening each other into lasting fulfillment.

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