A Few Tips For Being A Great Sedar Guest and Enjoying The Holiday

1. Please know that you are not a fifth wheel. If you have been invited as a guest to a Passover Sedar, let me remind you that the Haggadah states “Let all come and eat”. So, know that you are welcome and enjoy the holiday.

2. Feel free to ask questions. Don’t be shy. Ask about the dress code, the time, the other guests, etc. Passover is an occasion where questions are welcomed.

3. Offer to bring something. Offer to bring a side dish, a dessert, but ask your host/hostess first. Guests may have food allergies or perhasp an 18th dessert may not be warranted.

4. Host/ Hostess gifts: Who doesn’t like receiving presents? Some ideas include a pretty matzah cover, Passover truffles, a nice bottle of Passover wine, the options are many. One thing I advise against though are fresh cut flowers unless they are already pre- arranged in a container. Your host/hostess does not have time to play florist. They are busy!

5. Come with an open mind. No two sedars are alike as all families have different traditions and personalities.

6. Be prepared to be offered to be set up on dates by well-meaning guests: While Aunt Shirley may present as your host/hostesses crazy aunt, she may just have the perfect person for you. Give potential matchmaking a chance because you just never know.

Happy Passover friends. All the best to you and yours.


Purim: What It Teaches Us

Happy Purim friends. I hope that everyone has the chance today to indulge in eating delicious hamentashen, and in taking the time to enjoy our Jewish Mardi-gras.

In the story of Purim, Mordechai’s beautiful niece Esther won a beauty contest at King Ahasuerus’ castle, and she quickly became his second wife. She proved herself to be more than just a pretty face by proving to her husband that Haman, the evil Prime Minister was plotting to kill the Jewish people. The King then had Haman killed, and he gave his blessings to the Jewish people to protect themselves against their enemies.

So, how does all of this relate to dating and to relationships? From what I see, there is a clear message here for both men and for women. Firstly, make sure that you seek out more than a pretty face. Outward beauty fades, but intelligence lasts forever. Secondly, hold on to your truth. Seek out a partner that you can be yourself with, and who is respectful of your opinions.

Once again, have a Happy and Festive Purim.



A Post About Love In Honour Of Valentine’s Day

I believe that we all live with a fantasy notion of what love is. Most of us grew up reading fairy tales- stories in which the pretty girl was ALWAYS rescued by her handsome prince. If you are old like me, you may even remember a very famous line from the 1970’s movie “Love Story”. The line went like this – “Love means never having to say you are sorry’. Guess what? When you are truly in love with another person you will need to say those three words.

So, what is the meaning of true love?
Love is when you love someone despite their flaws. Nobody is perfect, they are just perfect for you.
Love takes time to build. We all know the infatuation phase. This is the time when your significant other seems awesome in every way. Authentic love though grows from friendship, trust, and understanding just to name a few examples.
Love is when you encourage your partner’ dreams, goals, and cheer on their successes. It means being able to put somebody else’s needs before your own.

Just as importantly, to be in love you need to love yourself. You need to feel good about yourself and your life in order to attract the love that you want.

What are your thoughts about love?

I wish all a very Happy Valentines Day!



Hello Friends and Goodbye to 2018!

At the end of each year I like to take agood honest look at myself to see what has worked well for me and to see whathas not. I do this to create a better and happier life for myself, and I recommend this as something that you should try too. A self assessment of the good, the bad, and the ugly is a great way to figure out where you are emotionally; and to discover where you need to go in order to create a happier, and a more fulfilling life for yourself.

Here are some questions for you to ponder:

What have I done to maximize my psychological well-being?

What have I done to improve my self-esteem?

What has held me back in terms of my personal relationships?

How emotionally vulnerable have I allowed myself to be within my personal relationships?

In which ways have I succeeded in trying new things outside of my comfort zone?

These are just a few of many questions that you can ask yourself. Of course there are many more, the possibilities are endless. Ask yourself the questions, write down your responses, and periodically check them throughout the year to see how well you are doing, andin which areas you can improve on.

The focus on this blog moving forward will be to focus in on subjects that are of interest to you. I will write about love, sex, relationships, and most importantly – about the subjects that intrigue you the most. In order to do that though, I need your help! Pleaseemail me at jennifer.barkin@gmail.com with topics that you wish to see addressed here.

I wish you all the best for a Happy and healthy New Year. May you all find the love that you desire and deserve.