Rosh Hashana begins a 10 day personal reflection which ends on Yom Kippur. As Rosh Hashana quickly approaches, it is time for all of us to reassess our goals and our dreams. We look at our past achievements, our failures, the good times, and the bad. Most importantly, we look for improvement in the days ahead of us.
This past year was a whirlwind for me. Professionally; I completed 100 hours of a Family Mediation internship, I became a presenter at the Ontario Family Court, and I trained as a Certified Divorce Coach. My Coaching training specifically taught me how to help others become unstuck, how to conquer their doubts, their fears, and how to find the tools to become their best selves. All of which really resonates with what we need to do on Rosh Hashana.
What most people do not recognize is that in order to move forward more successfully and positively, they need to embrace a place of discomfort. We need to own up to our misgivings, our wrongs, and to accept that we need to try uncomfortable things in order to get to that place of success. If we do not feel this discomfort; we will remain stuck in the places that we want to move away from, and we will ultimately repeat our same mistakes. Essentially, we need to have self awareness in regard to our shortcomings, and we need to adjust our behaviors and reactions accordingly.
So this Rosh Hashana, think of three areas where you wish to grow and/or improve. Consider what you will need to do to get there and take the steps to do it. Move out of your comfort zone. It is the only way that you can move forward positively.
My final thought – I want to wish everyone of my readers a sweet, healthy, and prosperous New Year (with the added bonus of finding love, of course).
is one of the most challenging things that we pass through our life.
with someone different from us who sees life differently, is very confusing and
require communications, first with ourselves and then with others.
be with someone who grew up in a house different from ours, are not always so
is difficult for us to put ourselves in the place of the partner.
we see the world for a moment through the eyes of the other, things may become
clear to us and to our partner.
partner and the relationship is often a
mirror that reflects what we think about ourselves and what is happening within
the trick is to listen and to see what we are asking of ourselves and then from
we act with such awareness ,the walking
along the winding paths of the relationship, that includes so many layers of
the human soul, is moor easy and clear to us.
main one being; Love, which should be cherished in the moments it comes,
because from love we came and toward love will go ♥
to guide you to a better relationship with yourself.
Bosmat Perry BY
The counting of the Omer is between Passover when G-d took us out of Egypt with a mighty hand and Shavuot when we were given our Torah by Moses on Mount Sinai. During this time… thousands of Rabbi Akiva’s students suffered from a terrible plague and died. on the 33rd day the plague was lifted and that is why we celebrate LagB’Omer. the Rabbi’s go on to teach us that the 1st day of the Omer we are closer to an animal in nature and by the end of the Omer we are one level away which belongs to G-d from having a more refined nature like our Creator. The reason for the plague was that the students disrespected each other. they had disagreements and arguments to achieve personal power and influence: that were not rooted in: having a disagreement for the sake of truth and the greater good. Causeless hatred is rampant amongst our society today. If we could shift our thinking and gage what is right and wrong, truth or lie, good or bad by how G-d would handle the situation, be our brother’s keeper, looking out for each other…rather than just ourselves, we can have a hand in bringing the Garden of Eden back in all it’s Glory with G-d living amongst us and inheriting the Gates of our enemies.
1. Please know that you are not a fifth wheel. If you have been invited as a guest to a Passover Sedar, let me remind you that the Haggadah states “Let all come and eat”. So, know that you are welcome and enjoy the holiday.
2. Feel free to ask questions. Don’t be shy. Ask about the dress code, the time, the other guests, etc. Passover is an occasion where questions are welcomed.
3. Offer to bring something. Offer to bring a side dish, a dessert, but ask your host/hostess first. Guests may have food allergies or perhasp an 18th dessert may not be warranted.
4. Host/ Hostess gifts: Who doesn’t like receiving presents? Some ideas include a pretty matzah cover, Passover truffles, a nice bottle of Passover wine, the options are many. One thing I advise against though are fresh cut flowers unless they are already pre- arranged in a container. Your host/hostess does not have time to play florist. They are busy!
5. Come with an open mind. No two sedars are alike as all families have different traditions and personalities.
6. Be prepared to be offered to be set up on dates by well-meaning guests: While Aunt Shirley may present as your host/hostesses crazy aunt, she may just have the perfect person for you. Give potential matchmaking a chance because you just never know.
Happy Passover friends. All the best to you and yours.