She tells me:

I’m scared. Afraid all the time that I’m not enough ….

Not good enough

Not happy enough

Not positive enough

Not professional enough

Not smart enough, rich, successful.

I feel that I am not good enough.

I am afraid that if I get to know myself in depth with all my weaknesses then I will be rejected.

And how do you feel about these things? I ask her: You accept those sides in you that are not enough, you accept yourself like you are ,or you are constantly criticizing yourself and bringing yourself down.

Imagine someone telling you that the way God created you ,is good enough.

That the way you are is happy enough, positive enough, professional enough, smart enough, rich enough.

That from these lower places we grow , that if we do not recognize them and accept them  as an essential and harmonious part of us, we will not be able to develop from them and make a progress.

Accept your self without judgment without criticism. just be with all your weaknesses, with all your fears, without wanting to be someone else .

Tell yourself that just the way you are is wonderful and what you really want is a deep knowledge of your inner self in all its variations and forms.

The accurate understanding of how you operate is the change you want.

You want you the way you are, you accept you as you are, you love you the way you are .

THIS IS A REAL FREEDOM IN THE SPIRIT OF PASSOVER.

HAPPY AND CLEAN PASSOVER.

I’m here to guide you to a better relationship with yourself. 
Bosmat Perry BY SKYPE& MESSENGER

Happy Purim friends. I hope that everyone has the chance today to indulge in eating delicious hamentashen, and in taking the time to enjoy our Jewish Mardi-gras.

In the story of Purim, Mordechai’s beautiful niece Esther won a beauty contest at King Ahasuerus’ castle, and she quickly became his second wife. She proved herself to be more than just a pretty face by proving to her husband that Haman, the evil Prime Minister was plotting to kill the Jewish people. The King then had Haman killed, and he gave his blessings to the Jewish people to protect themselves against their enemies.

So, how does all of this relate to dating and to relationships? From what I see, there is a clear message here for both men and for women. Firstly, make sure that you seek out more than a pretty face. Outward beauty fades, but intelligence lasts forever. Secondly, hold on to your truth. Seek out a partner that you can be yourself with, and who is respectful of your opinions.

Once again, have a Happy and Festive Purim.

Love,

Jennifer

Sometimes I want to be like my mother

A woman of yesterday.

And then I want to be a woman of today.

I do not want to be a superwoman, do not want to be a woman that does every thing to please others and she is empty inside.

I do not want to have a career and raise three children at the same time, do not want to be a loving partner and everyone will be happy with me except me ..

I want to have time to myself .

I want that everything will be in the right size for me, not for my husband or for my girlfriends or for anyone else, just for me!

I do not want others to be said about me : “wow … what a good and sucssesfull woman and a great partner”.

I want to be Pleased with myself, to except my self as who I am !

There are days when housekeeping and cleanliness makes me more satisfied than any glorious career, raises my energy and makes me the most healthy in the world. , Healthy on myself and not on anyone else!

I do not want my partner to be pleased with me because I’m going according to what he thinks is right.

 I want to listen to myself and understand myself to be content with myself.

Being once the little woman and once the mastermind to be a full-time mother and once half-time, want the freedom to choose to be who I really a!

To choose for myself what makes me feel good without economic considerations without considerations at all.

 only with considerations of the right to choose my life.

Thanks .

I’m here to guide you to a better relationship with yourself. 
Bosmat Perry BY SKYPE& MESSENGER

I believe that we all live with a fantasy notion of what love is. Most of us grew up reading fairy tales- stories in which the pretty girl was ALWAYS rescued by her handsome prince. If you are old like me, you may even remember a very famous line from the 1970’s movie “Love Story”. The line went like this – “Love means never having to say you are sorry’. Guess what? When you are truly in love with another person you will need to say those three words.

So, what is the meaning of true love?
Love is when you love someone despite their flaws. Nobody is perfect, they are just perfect for you.
Love takes time to build. We all know the infatuation phase. This is the time when your significant other seems awesome in every way. Authentic love though grows from friendship, trust, and understanding just to name a few examples.
Love is when you encourage your partner’ dreams, goals, and cheer on their successes. It means being able to put somebody else’s needs before your own.

Just as importantly, to be in love you need to love yourself. You need to feel good about yourself and your life in order to attract the love that you want.

What are your thoughts about love?

I wish all a very Happy Valentines Day!

Love,

Jennifer